Never Force a child

In the park I noticed a mother and a child sitting in the bench. The child was clinging on to the mother and was watching other kids playing. The mother was talking to the child something.

After sometime, I saw the mother pulling the child and making him sit on the merry go around and rotating it. The child started screaming. The mother wanted the child to enjoy the ride. But the child was in total fear and was crying. 

Please don’t do anything like this to your child. Do it only when the child is ready. When put into a new circumstance, the child will take sometime to adjust. At that time as a parent we should be with the kid to console him and give him confidence. Rather it is bad if we do the otherwise.

I have noticed it before also. In the park the parents will try to make the children play. As soon as they take the kids to the park, they expect the child to play happily. But please, this will not happen. Kindly realize this.

Give child sometime. Let him sit and see other children playing in the park. He will understand that it is good to play. He will see the fun other children are having. Slowly he will start playing. Never force him to do anything. Let him learn in his own pace. 

Nanny for the child

Yesterday in the basement of my flat where I park my vehicle, I saw a maid carrying a small little girl child and is chatting with the Plumber of the building. Initially I didn’t, felt anything odd. But as I noticed them closely I find that the child was crying. I felt sad. The plumber was trying to make the child smile and was doing something with his faces. The little one was crying hard. The plumber was still talking to the maid. Somehow I felt very uncomfortable seeing this. The child is in pain.  Some new surroundings, no much light and some stranger are talking to her and all. Initially thought I will go out without interfering.  But as I am always, my conscience didn’t allow me to go.

I called the maid and asked the where about. She was not ready to tell me the flat number and all. Still on pressure she told me the same. I asked her not to come to the basement and stay in the playarea where there will be many other children and parents. Why to come to this basement with the kid where there is no one. She went off.

For the parents who leave their kids in the care of maids, please take care.

1.       Give strict instructions to them not to go to places where there are no one and not to take the child to such places

2.       Check what the maid is doing at times and how she is taking care of the child.

3.       Give some surprise visits to the house at odd time and check.

The child is small and doesn’t know how to tell about the feelings which they are going through. As a parent please take utmost care when handing over the child to someone else. 

Feeding a child

Many a times I have seen parents going behind the kids and forcing them to eat. Put one spoon of food in to the kids mouth. The kid will sit with the food in his  mouth for sometime and then with difficulty swallow it. Sometimes he will vomit also. Please , please dont do that to your kid.

The kid even though he is small knows what it needs. We need not force them to eat. How can you as a parent know fully a child. You can understand it to a certain extend, but please dont  misunderstand that. The child knows what it needs and how much it needs.

Many parents have asked me that how to make the little ones eat food without issues. My suggestion will be Leave the kid to its choice and things will go smooth. From the beginning, just stop when the kid shows sign of fullness of his stomach. Once you get in to this mode, the kid will automatically eat food and stop when it is full. He is also happy, as  a parent you are also happy.

And also dont make the kid feel that his lunchtime /dinner time is very special and all. Once he goes in to that mode, he might not like it  and might hate food. Rather when you are eating, make him/her sit near you and in between feed him. Once the kid is of age when he can pick things with hand and keep it in his mouth, make him sit with you and then let him eat. In between you can feed him so that he will get a feeling that he is eating on his own.

Try doing like this and I am sure, you will not have much problems in feeding the kid. Please dont put pressure on the kid with respect to food. just imagine if someone is sitting near you and stuffing the food in your mouth and you dont liek the food.  The same is the case with the kid, rite.

One major mistake the parents of today's age do is to make the kid sit in front of the TV and give him food. It is easy for the parents, but that is a big mistake I would say. When watching TV, the kid dont know what they are doing. Eating then becomes just mechanical and he is not learning it properly. Dont do that. When eating let him only eat. You can rather talk to him about many things, which he will enjoy. He will then enjoy being with you and also will enjoy the lunch/dinner timings.  You can take this as a good oppurtunity to bond with the child

Any issues which you need help, dont hesitate to contact me..  Would be happy to help you out. 

Kids Dress for various occasaions

Dandiya time .. School is asking for dandiya dress for your kid ..

Independence day ..  Special dress for that ..

Christmas time .. Special dress 

Its a little bit difficult to find the needed dresses for the kids .. And searching for the matching accessories ..  today i got the details of a show who rents kids clothes for  various occasions.

http://fantasyworld.in/

Thanks for all the efforts what they put in this .. They maintain the clothes well ( dry cleaned) after every use and the one that I liked is that accessories can also be purchased on rent. 

Making our life as a parent easier :)

General Knowledge learning for kids

Today in our chat, my friend Praseeda was talking about this which she is doing with her kid .. I felt it very interesting ..

Randomly she will introduce her kid to some topic like 'Great people', 'Historic Places', 'Places of interest', 'Robots', 'Fruits', 'Birds', 'Stars'  etc etc .. She explains it to him in the form of  a story so that the little one feels interested .. After that she shows him the photos of the things which she had talked.. And she gives those pics to him. 

It was seen of great improvement in his style of looking at the things.. When ever he sees that again in some TV program or so, he co-relates it to what he had learned..

Thanks praseeda for sharing this with me .. I am definitely gonna try this out from today onwards  

Crosswords for kids

I had written about creating crosswords for kids in this post ..

Here is the link to  Crossword builder. We can build customized crosswords with the words they are familiar with. Helps in developing vocabulary.

http://www.qualint.com/wordsheets.html

Also Rashmie has written a beautiful post on Crosswords  .. Read it here

TV and Kids

Some days back, I wrote a blog post in my other blog Granpa in my pocket. It was about my daughter addiction to TV. Yesterday, as I was working from home and had so much of work, she was watching TV for a long time… I saw her and immediately realized that she is feeling very sleepy. I asked her to switch off the TV and come to sleep. She started crying telling that she is getting bored if we switch off the TV..


I was wondering how this little five year old know about boring. And felt very sad with that. Her life revolves around Mr Bean and Chotta Bheem now. When she talks, she talks about Bheem and Chutki. She don’t want to go out and play …. It is their age where they should play. I realized that she hasn’t taken her toys out for long ..

It all happened because I got a little busy with my office work and had to spend some more time in the office. No, I don’t want this to happen to my kid . I want to pull her out of that ..

I somehow made her to sleep. When she woke up, I was ready. Fed her Dosa and started my actions. We started with an art work. Gave her some coloured paper and asked her to do it. She was happy. Glue stick was also given. No scissors. Initially she asked for scissors, I told No. then she found out other ways to cut the paper. Soon I was happy to see that she got too engrossed in that work.

After sometime, she came up with something very beautiful. She has stuck many coloured papers and made an art form. Good, see this is the way kids should be ..Not watching the dumb TV all through the time.

My daughter was not used to TV. She knew the cartoon characters from books. She knew Thomas, She knew pooh, she knew Dora ..All through books. Because I got busy in office, She got diverted to TV.

Dear Parents, I would like to tell all of you, please don’t make your child sit in front of the TV for long. It will kill the child’s creativity. It will tamper their thinking power. Because they are seeing all pictures in front of them .

When we read a book to the child, he /she starts thinking. They will think on all possible ways and from there their questioning starts. Mamma, why it is like this ? what happens then ? etc etc. ut when they watch the TV, there is less scope of thinking .First reason is because it is fast and second , they see the things and they just take it inside. Too bad . Also now a days, many cartoons contain mostly evil things.

A sincere request to all of you parents, make sure that your child is not addicted to TV and lose his creative spirit. Once lost, it will be very difficult to get it back.


Some updates :
Saturday when I was in a book shop, I saw the series Chotta Bheem book I immediately grabbed the copy of it . As soon as I reached home, we gave it to my daughter.  She was so very happy with that ..and her face was glowing with happiness.. From that day onwards, she spends lot much time reading those books...
I felt happy about my right choice of getting her book of her favourite hero  : Chotta Bheem .. She is trying to read htat, joining words .. and she is very happy doing that ..

A small tip : Get books of their  super hero ..