Never Force a child

In the park I noticed a mother and a child sitting in the bench. The child was clinging on to the mother and was watching other kids playing. The mother was talking to the child something.

After sometime, I saw the mother pulling the child and making him sit on the merry go around and rotating it. The child started screaming. The mother wanted the child to enjoy the ride. But the child was in total fear and was crying. 

Please don’t do anything like this to your child. Do it only when the child is ready. When put into a new circumstance, the child will take sometime to adjust. At that time as a parent we should be with the kid to console him and give him confidence. Rather it is bad if we do the otherwise.

I have noticed it before also. In the park the parents will try to make the children play. As soon as they take the kids to the park, they expect the child to play happily. But please, this will not happen. Kindly realize this.

Give child sometime. Let him sit and see other children playing in the park. He will understand that it is good to play. He will see the fun other children are having. Slowly he will start playing. Never force him to do anything. Let him learn in his own pace. 

Nanny for the child

Yesterday in the basement of my flat where I park my vehicle, I saw a maid carrying a small little girl child and is chatting with the Plumber of the building. Initially I didn’t, felt anything odd. But as I noticed them closely I find that the child was crying. I felt sad. The plumber was trying to make the child smile and was doing something with his faces. The little one was crying hard. The plumber was still talking to the maid. Somehow I felt very uncomfortable seeing this. The child is in pain.  Some new surroundings, no much light and some stranger are talking to her and all. Initially thought I will go out without interfering.  But as I am always, my conscience didn’t allow me to go.

I called the maid and asked the where about. She was not ready to tell me the flat number and all. Still on pressure she told me the same. I asked her not to come to the basement and stay in the playarea where there will be many other children and parents. Why to come to this basement with the kid where there is no one. She went off.

For the parents who leave their kids in the care of maids, please take care.

1.       Give strict instructions to them not to go to places where there are no one and not to take the child to such places

2.       Check what the maid is doing at times and how she is taking care of the child.

3.       Give some surprise visits to the house at odd time and check.

The child is small and doesn’t know how to tell about the feelings which they are going through. As a parent please take utmost care when handing over the child to someone else. 

Feeding a child

Many a times I have seen parents going behind the kids and forcing them to eat. Put one spoon of food in to the kids mouth. The kid will sit with the food in his  mouth for sometime and then with difficulty swallow it. Sometimes he will vomit also. Please , please dont do that to your kid.

The kid even though he is small knows what it needs. We need not force them to eat. How can you as a parent know fully a child. You can understand it to a certain extend, but please dont  misunderstand that. The child knows what it needs and how much it needs.

Many parents have asked me that how to make the little ones eat food without issues. My suggestion will be Leave the kid to its choice and things will go smooth. From the beginning, just stop when the kid shows sign of fullness of his stomach. Once you get in to this mode, the kid will automatically eat food and stop when it is full. He is also happy, as  a parent you are also happy.

And also dont make the kid feel that his lunchtime /dinner time is very special and all. Once he goes in to that mode, he might not like it  and might hate food. Rather when you are eating, make him/her sit near you and in between feed him. Once the kid is of age when he can pick things with hand and keep it in his mouth, make him sit with you and then let him eat. In between you can feed him so that he will get a feeling that he is eating on his own.

Try doing like this and I am sure, you will not have much problems in feeding the kid. Please dont put pressure on the kid with respect to food. just imagine if someone is sitting near you and stuffing the food in your mouth and you dont liek the food.  The same is the case with the kid, rite.

One major mistake the parents of today's age do is to make the kid sit in front of the TV and give him food. It is easy for the parents, but that is a big mistake I would say. When watching TV, the kid dont know what they are doing. Eating then becomes just mechanical and he is not learning it properly. Dont do that. When eating let him only eat. You can rather talk to him about many things, which he will enjoy. He will then enjoy being with you and also will enjoy the lunch/dinner timings.  You can take this as a good oppurtunity to bond with the child

Any issues which you need help, dont hesitate to contact me..  Would be happy to help you out.