Never Force a child

In the park I noticed a mother and a child sitting in the bench. The child was clinging on to the mother and was watching other kids playing. The mother was talking to the child something.

After sometime, I saw the mother pulling the child and making him sit on the merry go around and rotating it. The child started screaming. The mother wanted the child to enjoy the ride. But the child was in total fear and was crying. 

Please don’t do anything like this to your child. Do it only when the child is ready. When put into a new circumstance, the child will take sometime to adjust. At that time as a parent we should be with the kid to console him and give him confidence. Rather it is bad if we do the otherwise.

I have noticed it before also. In the park the parents will try to make the children play. As soon as they take the kids to the park, they expect the child to play happily. But please, this will not happen. Kindly realize this.

Give child sometime. Let him sit and see other children playing in the park. He will understand that it is good to play. He will see the fun other children are having. Slowly he will start playing. Never force him to do anything. Let him learn in his own pace. 

Nanny for the child

Yesterday in the basement of my flat where I park my vehicle, I saw a maid carrying a small little girl child and is chatting with the Plumber of the building. Initially I didn’t, felt anything odd. But as I noticed them closely I find that the child was crying. I felt sad. The plumber was trying to make the child smile and was doing something with his faces. The little one was crying hard. The plumber was still talking to the maid. Somehow I felt very uncomfortable seeing this. The child is in pain.  Some new surroundings, no much light and some stranger are talking to her and all. Initially thought I will go out without interfering.  But as I am always, my conscience didn’t allow me to go.

I called the maid and asked the where about. She was not ready to tell me the flat number and all. Still on pressure she told me the same. I asked her not to come to the basement and stay in the playarea where there will be many other children and parents. Why to come to this basement with the kid where there is no one. She went off.

For the parents who leave their kids in the care of maids, please take care.

1.       Give strict instructions to them not to go to places where there are no one and not to take the child to such places

2.       Check what the maid is doing at times and how she is taking care of the child.

3.       Give some surprise visits to the house at odd time and check.

The child is small and doesn’t know how to tell about the feelings which they are going through. As a parent please take utmost care when handing over the child to someone else.